It’s been said that people tell their hairstylists even more than their friends. One client of mine actually calls me her HAIR-apist which is the cutest thing ever, and also quite true I suppose. Getting to know people on a personal level and learning about their lives has really taught me a lot. Through my own life experiences and my clients, there are some things I’ve learned I’d like to share
-Everyone has insecurities, and it is up to us to turn them around and focus on the good within ourselves. We are our own worst critics, and can pick ourselves apart at the drop of a dime, but what about focusing on the good we offer to the world, and let our beauty shine from within. Every person, even the one who you think is “perfect” is hard of themselves and probably goes through the same struggles as you. And until you realize the good you offer, you won’t succeed to your fullest potential.
-It’s ok to be hard on yourself from time to time, we all are, but try not to feel too bad for yourself. Someone is always struggling more, grieving more, sadder than you are, feeling more pain, etc. There is always a person who would give anything in the world to trade places with where you are at…
-Don’t allow negative people to rule your life. Friends, partners, coworkers, even family can break you down.
-Only keep the friends who bring the best out of you close. Surround yourself with friends who build you up and don’t break you down. When you have friends who you don’t judge you, you feel as if you can rule the world! Seriously, friendship doesn’t mean judging and discouraging, it means support and encouragement.
-If your partner makes you insecure, isn’t pushing you to be the best you can be, you probably are settling. If you are dating and the person isn’t giving the effort you are willing to give, let it go. So many people make excuses for WHY someone doesn’t call or text them back or WHY they flake on them. Think about it, if you really like someone, would YOU not text or call or would YOU flake? Absolutely not. So if someone is doing that to you, you probably aren’t a priority in their life. YOU SHOULD GET WHAT YOU GIVE. Those people are out there, but until you realize you deserve it, you won’t find it.
-If you are in a work environment that you are unhappy at or are surrounded unhappy coworkers, it’s probably up to you to change the situation. It takes a lot of risk to make a change when it comes to your profession, but we spend so much of our lives at work. If you hate your job, then you’re unhappy a big chunk of your life. And if you have coworkers who bring you down, it’s really hard to let them not affect you when you spend every single day with them. One of the best things I’ve ever done was left a work environment that was filled with unhappy people. It was scary, but I became a better and stronger person for it.
-The way I assess risk is I ask myself what the worst case outcome of the situation is. What is the worst thing that could happen if I take this risk? Then I ask myself if I could handle that, pick up the pieces, and move on. If you can, then you should jump! Every risk or chance I’ve taken has seemed to come out with a positive outcome. If you’re strong enough to keep moving forward, no risk isn’t worth taking.
-If you are sad, don’t worry, because sadness always ends and you will be happy again soon enough. I guess what I’m trying to say is if you are down, try to pick yourself back up, and if you can’t that’s ok. But know you will soon feel happiness.
-If you believe you really can achieve something, then you will. I’ve seen it all the time, and have personally experienced it myself. When you change your mindset you change your life.
-Misery loves company. It’s always important to reflect on yourself and be sure you haven’t gotten stuck in this rut. Try to even keep a mental buzzer in your head. Every time you or your friends say something negative, talk bad about a person, or do something selfish, make that buzzer go off. Then you can be aware of the life you really are living, and how others may really view you.
-You can only be the best you can be. Quit wasting time comparing yourself to others, focus on YOU.
-Follow through with people. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves when people reach out with questions or for help, and never follow through once I help or answer them. Be gracious and people will remember you for that. People will also remember you for the latter…
-Stop complaining about things you can’t change. We stress ourselves out every single day and make ourselves sick for no reason. Yes traffic is frustrating, but if you stress about it and freak out is it going to make the cars move quicker? NO! If your flight is delayed because of weather can you change the weather? NO! And would you honestly want to fly in extreme weather conditions if it isn’t safe? Come on now. Remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. Maybe that traffic or fight delay is saving your life. May sound crazy, but who knows right?
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